As we navigate life with our spouse, do we hear their input as valuable? Or do tune them out like Charlie Brown’s teacher? I’ve sometimes gotten the glazed over look whilst thinking “Yes, but that’s how you think!” Join us as we explore how powerful valuing their God-given perspective can be!

The previous videos may help you connect some dots. You can watch them here.

Question: What conversation can you revisit with a renewed sense of valuing your spouse’s perspective? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

The Process of Transformation

“Your kids are such a joy!”

“Your marriage is such a blessing”

“How can you do all that you do?”

This is normal for us to hear on a consistent basis, and it sometimes follows up with:

“I could never do that!”

Well, we didn’t start this way! We came across a new idea, something we’d never done before, and went through a process to make it our own. In this video, we’ll take you through the process of transformation! This is part 2 of this video chat (that was just supposed to be 5 minutes long!) You can watch part 1 here.

Whether you’re single, married, with or without kids, this is relevant to you!

Question: What area would you like to see transformation in and what will you do to start ‘forming’ that new thought today? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

 

A Beautiful Story of Family Restoration

How God Brought Audra back to us

Hello friend! I’m excited because today my Handsome Man’s going to share his side of our restoration story! You know, the one where everything started with a grave mistake, but how God turned it into something awesome. You can hear the beginning of the story here, and Audra’s perspective here. So, let’s sit down to that amazing cup of coffee I’m smellin’, and Brad, the floor is yours!


Brad’s Side of the Story:

“I’m pregnant!” Two words that are normally received with cheers of joy but in the wrong time and context can cause your heart to leap into your throat. That’s exactly what happened when my girlfriend told me those words. My next thought was “now what am I going to do?”

Unfortunately, I heeded some terrible advice and I walked away…no I RAN away!

A few years passed and I came to understand the great love and grace God has for me. I was able to now take responsibility for my greatest mistake. After signing my paternal rights away all I could do was a trust that God could and would take my mistake and turn it for good. HE would bring restoration!

The small picture, the only one I had, of a little baby girl stayed with me, tucked into the pages of an old Bible. I’d pull it out from time to time and pray,

God, wherever she is, lead her to You. Put people into her life that will tell her about Your love. And Father, help me find her at the right time and place.

I didn’t realize it at the time but years before God restored my daughter to me, I had turned my heart toward her. And that is always the beginning of a reconciliation.

 


When Celina and I started dating, I told her about the daughter I had, out there somewhere, and that I was believing God would restore her to me.  I asked if she would accept me with this mistake, and in classic Celina fashion she took some time to think it over. Boy! Did that ever cause me to nervously sweat it out!

I knew she deserved someone who had no skeletons in his closet.  Of course, I’m very thankful that she said YES and as many times since then, she extended grace to me. In that action, Celina gave me the power to become a better man.

Fast forward to 2010 and a very random Facebook message from an old friend asking if I ever wanted to meet my daughter. I replied “Absolutely! It’s what we’ve been believing for!”  So, through the marvel of social media I was able to finally make contact with Audra.

It was a little strange writing her and saying, ‘hey, I’m your father…”, but it was the beginning of a restoration process that has taken us on a wild, God-ordained, God-inspired and God-directed ride. All because He helped me turn my heart towards my daughter. (To be continued)

Happy Mother’s Day

You either "is" one, have one, or both!

Happy Mamas Day! Flowers! Confetti! Crowds cheering! Ma-ma! Ma-ma! You’re so awesome!

Mother’s Day is coming up! For me and some South Americans it’s May 10th, for most North Americans it’s on Sunday.

Regardless of when and how you celebrate it, here’s the deal, you either “is” one, or you have one, or both! 😜

If you “is” one:

Motherhood, as a friend said, is the toughest job you’ll ever love. And boy! Was she right! Seek God’s design for this role and engage with it. I am amazed at the simplicity of His design and all the help He provides so we can fulfill our role well!

Our daughter Audra.

This tough job has moments of dark and disconcerting valleys and moments of sheer elation. Mama, the Holy Spirit is with you alllllll the way and will gently lead you and wisely guide you. He’ll point you to answers in Scripture. He’ll send people who are wise and willing to come along side you in the journey. He’ll put great resources across your path. Trust Him. Receive from Him.

Don’t take the valleys or zeniths very seriously! They don’t mark whether you’re being successful or not.

When your kids respond to your training and teaching from their own heart with some measure of consistency, then you know you’re on track.

Take the time to enjoy your kids and the fruit of your labor.

Mom and I enjoying Chai Tea for our birthday.

Now to those that “isn’t one”… you have one!

Who’s yo’ mama?

Most of us have a mama. Someone who brought us into this world and threatened once or twice to take us out of it. Ahem! Someone who sacrificed and did the best she could with where she was at the time. Let’s take the time to appreciate her and tell her what she means to us. Let’s honor her!

If for some reason you don’t have a mama, know that God fills that void in you with Himself and provides mother figures in your life. He loves you!

Psalms 68:6 says that he sets the solitary into families. Pray for a family you can belong to!

Our last trip to Guatemala to visit my grandmother.

There are grandmothers who stand in for mothers. There are adopted mothers, step mothers and spiritual mothers. All of them have a role in our life. Think of all their influence! Now let’s drop them a line and tell them!

Question: Who’s yo’ mama and what will you say to honor her? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

Carving Out Time

Intentionally Connecting With Those That Matter Most

Hi There! Thanks for stopping by and having coffee time with us today! Coffee time is a special, guarded time Brad and I have carved out earrrrrrly in the mornings before our day gets away from us like a team of thundering horses. We wanted to share why and how we came to having Coffee Time. Maybe we can be that little voice you needed to remember that:

The quality of our relationships heavily influences the quality of our life, so we must intentionally connect and stay connected! God designed us to thrive when we are interdependent and have strong, healthy relationships.

Question: What one thing will you decide to do today that will help start or strengthen a life-giving relationship? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

PS: I’m not sure how this ended up being the first frame on the video… but it is hilarious! Ahhh… we live and learn.

PPS: I first published this as a short video clip, but some readers had issues opening it. It’s now a normal blog post… thanks for your patience as we work out the bugs!

Hi There! Thanks for stopping by and having coffee time with us today! Coffee time is a special, guarded time Brad and I have carved out earrrrrrly in the mornings before our day gets away from us like a team of thundering horses. We wanted to share why and how we came to having Coffee Time. Maybe we can be that little voice you needed to remember that:

The quality of our relationships heavily influences the quality of our life, so we must intentionally connect and stay connected! God designed us to thrive when we are interdependent and have strong, healthy relationships.

Question: What one thing will you decide to do today that will help start or strengthen a life-giving relationship? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

PS: I’m not sure how this ended up being the first frame on the video… but it is hilarious! Ahhh… we live and learn.

Oh Those Messy Corners!

Internal spring cleaning at its best.

It’s springtime! We want to shake off the cold and inactivity of the last few months, get outside in the sun and get the fresh air in the house! Want some fresh-squeezed lemonade?

You know how everything might be picked up and tidy, but there’s little piles of paper or miscellaneous stuff in the corners? They just sit there and sit there and sit there. They are not urgent. They blend in with the decor. They become the norm. They TAKE OVER.

The amount of stuff that somehow makes it into our life is unfathomable. If we let it, it steals our time, our peace and our joy! As with every other area of our life, we must be intentional about how we approach “things” and ask why? This is a good documentary Brad and I watched and really enjoyed. As usual, it’s very good food for thought!

Anyway…

Once in a while I shake myself and tackle all the corners. It is so refreshing to go through the house and deal with stuff! Ahhhhh, peace, calm, rest.

These piles also exist in the corners of my soul. The Un-Dealt-With stuff. The attitudes that aren’t congruent with the fact that I’m a child of God. The Stinkin’ Thinkin’ that holds me back from doing the good works God has prepared for me. The fears that still shackle me even though Christ has paid for my complete and utter freedom. Well…

I’m doing a spring clean of the corners of my house and of my soul. I’ll get those non-essential plastic junky items purged, those out-of-season clothes put away and those attitudes and thoughts back under submission to the knowledge of Christ.

How do I clean the corners of my soul?

By reminding myself who God made me to be. I read the Epistles in the New Testament and I ask the Holy Spirit to guide and help me.

Ahhhhh, peace, calm, rest!

How about joining me? It’s always better to clean with a friend!

Talk soon!